It's all about the members!

Hello,

So my members look like they are on the verge of having one of their regularly scheduled mini-meltdowns. I took a bunch of pieces from their threads and tried to make a constructive thread out of it "How to make the site better (http://www.wnypoker.com/forums/showthread.php?t=21992)". I even tried to include some deep linking into the suggestions. What other suggestions do you have? What do you do when your members start fighting? Post a note? Ignore it? I try not to comment inline and get sucked into the drama, that's why the separate thread. Just wondering what your thoughts are. Thanks!

-Raymond

Tell them to take it to aim or some kinda messanger or there going to koin the suspended usergroup for awhile.

I Keel Haul the ring leaders ,

ITs a Custom User Group where they can only see one forum and cant send PM's ect....

Then I tell them how influentail they are and blah blah blah kiss a little ass then have them go save the thread

DM

Some newb comes in and stirs it up - the stalwarts rally and the regulars get stronger.
It's when the stalwarts get up each others nose that the real trouble starts, it seems.

My site is a bit of an onion. There's a forum that only comes up for 50+ post members and has proved very useful on the odd occassion when stalwarts clash. First, I shunt the posts from the fight into this special forum and then at least I can weave some magic without folks that don't understand the personalities involved from sticking their oar in. From there, it takes some skill. But like it or not, some leadership needs to happen fast.

Let 'em fight! Geeze, don't try to micromanage your forums. If they have a beef, let 'em have it out. Just make it clear that it is not to spill over into any other area, it has to stay there. The only time I ever step in is when they start calling each other names or using God**** or the *F* word. Gotta keep it semi clean in case any kiddies browse by. But then again, if it's in a private forum, oh hell let 'em go at it.

It adds some spark to the forum, people get involved, posts go through the roof - hahaha...

I wanna get a good debate going here.... let's see now, what kind of s*** can I start....
:evillaugh:

You must have some cleaned mouth members peggy hehe, my fights usually start out with words that arent safe for any kids to see.:p

Are you kidding me?? At an adult website? I think not. lol
I moved the thread to a private forum and let 'em at each other.

let's see now, what kind of s*** can I start....
Rather than say anything, can I just ask if anyone has seen my coat? :hide:

Let 'em fight!

I have "rules" on my forum which include no flaming, no excessive foul language, and the like. With that, I LOVE a good debate. If one member resorts to name calling or out right trolling, that member gets an infraction.

If it starts getting close, I may give a general warning in the thread, but generally allow it all.

Controversy == unique content :D especially if you encourage using reliable sources and good speeling/gramar :p

Yep that's what I said above - well, kind of - excessive foul language.
What I don't understand is why/how people can't get the hang of attacking an idea or opinion without attacking the person expressing it. I mean I've seen so many debates turn into personal attacks, you have to wonder about their mentality.

Attack/debate/argue the idea or opinion, not the person.

I have an area Called the Badlands thats password protected and Hidden based on the Birthday Profile Field , Dont allow no penitration Pics other than that the guys are calm and it moderates itsself , if any threads get out of hand in the open i move it into one of the bad lands forums

The Bad Lands - (Parent) Girls Girls Girls
Mad House - For Rants Ect...
The Loney Bin - For Adult Jokes Funny Stuff Ect
The Dark Dungeon - For the Evil Stuff

Giving the board somewhere to vent does my board wonders

DM

How do they find out and get the password if they want it?

-Raymond

If the Birthday field in there Profile states there over 18 then they can see the forum on the board but it says private and to contact a Bomb Squad (Super MOD) for the password to enter

Works great

DM

i have seen 30+ page beef threads on 1 forum i frequent,

let em go, if it gets out of hand close the thread for a day